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Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.
Confucius
Have you ever felt like you’re making life more complicated than it needs to be? Ideally, we should be able to live life—go to work, spend time with loved ones, and enjoy ourselves—yet, we often find ourselves busy, overwhelmed, stressed, and caught up in tasks we don’t truly want to be doing.
While there are moments when obligation or commitment requires us to take action, there are also times when we end up saying yes out of habit, rather than necessity.
Our biggest fear of saying no is sounding rude or trying to be people pleasers, and we always say yes when asked to do things or be a part of something. I know because I used to be that person, and sometimes I still am. It can be a hard habit to break when you’ve always been a yes girl (or man). No is such a small word, but can be very powerful in creating a simpler, stress-free life for you.
I’m going to share some helpful tips on how to confidently say no, set healthy boundaries, and embrace the idea that it’s okay to say no to those you love and respect.
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What Saying No Can Do For You
Do you feel the same way as I do? Like you can’t say no to people? I feel bad that I am letting them down when telling people no. It can be so draining when you say yes to everything you’re asked to do.
Sometimes I don’t want to grab that cup of coffee, make plans, or accept the task that someone has asked me to do. But I always end up saying yes. I always take on everything that is asked of me and then wonder why my life is so hectic and I’m burnt out.
Always saying yes can take a serious toll on your emotional, mental, and physical health.
Learning to say no will be one of the best things you do for yourself. Learning to say no can work wonders for your mental health. You will feel relieved knowing that you are still a good person, you are just making the right decision for yourself.
You will have more precious time to do things that you want to do and enjoy. It will free you of so many obligations.
It’s almost like a form of self-care learning to say no to people about all kinds of things- a new commitment, a coffee date, or anything that may put you in an uncomfortable situation. You will no longer have to struggle with being the bad person because you have accepted that it’s okay to say no. You know that you are better off in the long run by not accepting the invitation.
You can have time to recover socially in between social outings (if you need that), take a break mentally, and distance yourself from people in your life that may not always make you feel the best. Setting boundaries with people in your life is a positive thing.
Why I Should Set Boundaries
Setting boundaries with people in your life is important because it lets them know what they can expect of you. They help manage expectations, reduce resentment, and encourage open, honest communication.
Setting boundaries is a great way to create a healthy balance between caring for others and caring for yourself.
You can make the choices that best benefit your mental and physical health without feeling immense pressure to please everyone in your life.
Boundaries can benefit you in a few different ways. They can protect your well-being by preventing others from overstepping your limits and taking what little time you may have to yourself. Boundaries can strengthen relationships and create a foundation of respect in those relationships. People respect when you are open and honest about what you want and don’t want in and from a relationship.
Creating boundaries lets them know what they can expect from you and what you can expect from them. Lastly, creating boundaries allows you to prevent burnout in your life. You have control over your life.
Setting boundaries allows you to prioritize your well-being and avoid the exhaustion of constantly saying yes at the expense of yourself.
Now, let’s learn how to set those boundaries!
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How to Set Boundaries
Setting boundaries is a super helpful skill to have. It might feel a little tricky at first, but once you get the hang of it, you’ll see just how valuable it can be.
Here are some of the best ways to set boundaries in your life.
1. Establish Your Limits
Know what makes you feel comfortable and what drains you. You need to establish your boundaries around your physical, mental, and emotional limits.
We all have certain people, places, and activities that are a good fit for us. They make us happy and positive, and we feel empowered when we are in contact with these things.
Then, there are people, places, and activities that drain us. We feel emotionally, mentally, and physically drained after being in contact with these things. Be aware of these limits, and know where to draw the line.
2. Communicate Your Boundaries
Be clear and concise when communicating your boundaries to others. Be direct when letting them know you need more time for yourself or that you can’t do something when asked. Be confident when stating your boundaries.
Do not feel guilty and apologize for setting boundaries with people in your life. It is not a negative thing! Setting boundaries is positive and you should treat them as such. Being confident and communicating your boundaries will create respect towards them and your limits.
3. Say No
Saying no is essential for maintaining boundaries. It’s okay to decline requests or invitations if they don’t align with your priorities. Saying no doesn’t require an explanation—sometimes, simply saying “No, thank you” is enough.
No is such a simple word, yet there is so much power behind it. Many of us spend so much time worrying about how others will react if we say no, but we should really be worrying about what will happen if we say yes to too many obligations.
Learning to say no is an essential part of setting boundaries in your life.
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Respect Your Own Needs
At the end of the day, It all comes down to respecting and prioritizing your own needs, even if it means saying no to others. Respecting your needs when saying no to people is all about honoring your boundaries
Recognize what it is that you need to live a stress-free, positive, and healthy lifestyle, and know that your time, energy, and emotional well-being are important.
You also need to remember that you shouldn’t feel guilty about respecting your needs. When you say no to others and put boundaries in place, you are taking care of yourself.
In return, you will be more emotionally and mentally available for those around you when the time comes. It’s an act of self-care that allows you to be your best self!
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If you’re struggling to say no, start by setting clear boundaries in your life. Identify the areas where you need them most and begin there. With time, you’ll become more comfortable saying no!
If you have experience with this topic in your life, I would love to hear about your story and how learning to say no changed your life.
Until next time,
Catherine
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